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Romance on Mars
Romance on Mars
I know it’s common knowledge that women are from Venus and men are from Mars, but when it comes to romance, is it possible that were really so dissimilar in our beliefs as to what ‘Romance’ actually is? I guess it depends on how each person perceives it. Women would define it as being more of an act which gives them a feeling. To feel special, feel wanted, feel needed, feel appreciated and so on. Men seem to look on romance as a more practical matter, that’s more likely something they have to do rather than something they should feel or instinctively want to do.
Men see gestures such as flowers, chocolates, meals etc as being standard token gifts which should get the job done, and allow them to clock out of the romance job. Whereas most women might see the smaller gestures as far more significant. An act to show that there listening to you, or that they know what you like, or that they get you. Doing something you now they don’t like, but will still do because they know it will make you happy. These are the gestures that matter. I think it’s in built in women to natural want and do these smaller gestures. But in the majority of cases nature failed womankind and didn’t install this into men. Mother nature? Father nature more like!
This is not new news to women and they have come up with ways to give subtle hints, and sometimes blatant ones! Yet Man still doesn’t yet have the capacity to pick them up. I don’t blame men for this, father nature again! But still you would think with all the information out there on how we work, that they would have adapted and make more of an educated effort to measure up in these stakes. With so many women’s magazines, TV series and films out there, if they really wanted to be ‘the perfect guy’ they would do some research?
Men see the more practical things as a higher priority in relationships, like bringing in the money, doing the DIY, and hopefully being loyal and monogamous. Women see the romance as a higher one by far. So how do we pair up and make a successful lasting relationship when in the majority we see all things romantic so differently. Well it’s been working that way for a long time, but now were more aware of ourselves and our needs, the length of relationships seems to shorten as were less willing to accept less than we need.
This isn’t a ‘man bashing’ piece but more a realisation of how different the views of the sex’s are. Women must realise that most men aren’t as romantically thoughtful as them, and accept that it’s not a failing but just their makeup, else they would be women lol And men need to understand how important that type of romance is to their partners, and if they do love them, that its worth making an effort to live up to their women’s unrealistic expectations. Effort is the key here on both sides. If both are willing to talk, be open and make the effort to accept each other’s needs and want to make each other happy, its less likely to go wrong. The effort is often romantic enough for the women, and the men may get to feel something that’s usually an exclusive feeling for women.
Now for you men out there struggling, here are some easy romantic tips!
• Listen! Look out for the obvious hints that women give out….we do it trust me.
• Make a note – Leave a small note on the fridge, or in the coffee that says ‘I love you’
• Flowers are an easy one, but make sure you get the ones she likes, show her you remember.
• Go off schedule, don’t just save romantic moments for valentines, birthdays, or anniversaries.
• Spend time doing something with her she likes, that she knows you don’t, without moaning!
• Say you love her, but also tell her why….explaining this will get you serious bonus points.
• And if you must be practical, offer to, or just do some of her workload,
do the garden without being asked, cook dinner as a surprise….she’ll love that you made her beans on toast!
One of these a week will really help you guys out…..trust me….
and do it because the woman you love is worth it. It will make her happy, and that should make you happy too.
Rosalyn A. Scanlon
Signing off.
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